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The Desire For Attention

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We are more than our bodies, but that doesn’t mean we have to be a shamed of them or our sexuality.

As women we are accused of seeking attention more than men are, whether for speaking out politically, for dressing a certain way, or for even posting a selfie. Our culture has a double standard that runs so deep, many women have actually built up an automatic defense—attempting to be a step ahead of potential critics by making sure we have “real” reasons for anything we say or do.

Often it’s men propelling these acts of sexism, but women discount one another too: Think about how many times you’ve heard a woman say about another woman, “Oh, she’s just doing that for attention.” Our society tells women we can’t be, say, sexy and confident and opinionated about politics. This would allow us too much power. Instead our society asks us to declare and defend our motivations, which makes us second-guess them, all while men do what they please without question.

I see it all the time, particularly when my girlfriends are getting ready to go out. They encounter this moment when they think, I don’t want to look like I tried too hard. They don’t want to be seen as desperate or vain. But my guy friends don’t think twice about whether this shirt or that cologne will make them seem attention seeking. The truth is that both groups want to be noticed. Yet we view a man’s desire for attention as a natural instinct; with a woman, we label her a narcissist.

Look at pop culture: Mick Jagger is 73, and he still sometimes wears his shirt open and gyrates onstage. We understand that this is a part of his performance and artistic brand. Meanwhile, when Madonna, who is 58 and a revolutionary in that same kind of artistic sexuality, wears a sheer dress to the Met Gala, critics call her “a hot mess” who’s “desperate.” But isn’t she just making one of her signature political statements about female sexuality (and, incidentally, about our ageist, sexist culture too)? In any case, they are both performers who undoubtedly like attention. So why does Madonna get flak for it while Jagger is celebrated?

It’s absurd to think that desire for attention doesn’t drive both women and men. Why are women scrutinized for it more, then? And if a woman dresses up because she does want attention, male or otherwise, does that make her guilty of something? Or less “serious”? Our society doesn’t question men’s motivations for taking their shirt off, or shaving, or talking about politics—nor should it. Wanting attention is genderless. It’s human. 😉

Be A Creature Unlike Any other

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Hi Ladies,

I have confidence and self worth, it is one of my forces as a woman.. I have always had confidence and self worth, I know I am lucky. Probably because of my upbringing, my Egyptian daddy told me I was a queen everyday. My nick name in my familie is Queenie haha – go figure.

I see a lot of woman that are very insecure, unhappy and confused. So let me give you some tips to get that power flowing from your veins. Confidence and self worth will help you on the dating scene, situations with your boyfriend, maybe he is being a dick and you don’t stand up for yourself. In your carrier – go get what you want, or standing up for yourself in a conflict with a friend. Being confident and having self worth is very important in all aspects of life.

Being a Creature unlike any other is a state of mind. You don’t have to be rich, beautiful or exceptionally smart to feel this way about yourself. And you don’t have to be born with this feeling either. It can be learned mastered and practiced. Being a creature unlike any other is really an attitude, a sense of confidence and radiance that sparkles from your head to your toe. It’s the way you smile (you light up a room), pause in between sentences (you don’t babble on and on of nervousness), listen (attentively, look but never stare), breathe slowly and stand straight, walk with you shoulders back. It doesn’t matter if you are not a beauty queen, that you never finished college, or that you don’t get invited to current events. YOU still think you are enough! You have more confidence than woman with MBAs or women with LOADS of money in the bank. you don’t grovel. Your not desperate or anxious. You don’t date men who don’t want you. If not him someone better you say. You don’t settle. You don’t use sex to make men love you. You don’t chase anyone, it could be a man or a friend that is acting stupid toward you. You are not cynical. You don’t go to pieces when a relationship doesn’t work out. instead you get a manicure and go out on a date or hang out with all you supportive fun friends. You’re an optimist. You brush away a tear so that it doesn’t smudge your make up and you move on! Of course that is not how you really feel all the time. But that is how you pretend you feel, until you actually feel that way, thinking negative thoughts will make you feel like crap, so forcing yourself to think positive will lift yourself up, you get my drift?.

Tomorrow I will write about Being A Creature Unlike Any Other On A Date 😉 Stay Ready!

The Best Things In Life Are Free, 40 reasons!

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A day at the beach

A walk in the woods

Deep talks with my dad

Teasing my mom

My brothers protection

laughing until my belly hurts with my friends

A hug from my best friend

Running by the beach with my dog

Adventures

Speaking my mind

Feeling sexy

Working out

Yoga

Reading a mind-blowing good book

Listening to my favorite song

Playing with my goddaughter

Watching the sunset

A long shower

Spooning

Dancing

Breathing Fresh air

Climbing Trees

Unconditional love

Kissing and so much more 😉

Watching my favorite movie

Feeling the warmth from the sun on my skin

A smile from a stranger on the street

Wearing my favorite dress

Feeling the wind in my hair

Diving into the ocean

Watching people

Cooking

Smelling fresh flowers

Working towards my goals

Doing what I love

Meeting new people

Watching a beautiful view

Drinking cold water when I am thirsty

Riding horses with the pyramids behind me (Free if you live in Egypt and you own your own horse haha..)

Listening to a good story

I hope you don’t think this post is too corney.. 🙂  

But I often think, how the hell did I get this lucky.

 

 

 

 

 

Experts are saying Fatigue affects strong and caring people! Find out why?

I have heard that selfish people live longer, after reading this article, I am thinking maybe its true. Unfortunately I am one of those people that overthink things and I can’t be happy until I know everybody around me, are doing well. Therefore I found this article very useful as a reminder ;)..

Fatigue Syndrome is a word that has begun to be seen and heard more and more in recent years. It is a disease that people can get from prolonged stress. For example,- you have a lot to do at work or in your private life . Yes, you have certainly heard of it. You probably know someone who has suffered from fatigue, or perhaps you might have been affected by it yourself. Unfortunately fatigue is not taken seriously. Some people think it is a made-up disease. But it is very real and often effects high-performing people. A stress expert describes what fatigue really means.

1. Fatigue affects strong people According to Karin Isberg it affects the condition of high performing individuals with ” great inner resources ” . They set high standards for themselves and they also experience demands from the outside. “It takes a strong person to push themselves hard, and keep it going for a long time”. According to brain researcher Agneta Sandström fatigue often affects people with skilled jobs.

2. The fatigue affects caring people Karin Isberg says, – good-hearted people who think about others well-being, they are more prone to fatigue. They feel it is selfish to focus on themselves and they neglect their own needs. She compares it to driving a car without fuel.

3. Fatigue affects those who find it difficult to say NO. Anyone who thinks of others more than themselves and place great demands on themselves, – usually have difficulties with saying NO. They tap all their inner resources before they say NO and then it is to late.

4. Fatigue is not the same as a depression, although fatigue and depression have similarities, there are crucial differences. While depressed people “give up” usually exhausted people feel frustration and anger over life.

5. The way out of exhaustion is to focus on yourself. Give priority to your own well-being! Then fill the internal resources and devote time to yourself – do things that make YOU Happy! It is also good to practice on setting limits, saying no and asking for help. It prevents you from suffering from fatigue. The most important thing is, sleeping properly.

We won’t have the energy to be supportive and help the people we love and care about, if we do not take care of ourselves FIRST.

Remember to LOVE yourself and say NO, when you need to.

MUCH LOVE 😉


												
										
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