A psychologist explains how successful people do more in a day than others do in a week

130712-beyonce-jay-z

Hi Guys,

I found this article super interesting, I tried to follow the advice all day and it feels good.. 😉 Try it!!

“You have the same number of hours in the day as Beyoncé.”

Everyone knows someone who works full time, volunteers, runs a successful blog, and somehow still finds time to go grocery shopping, cook organic Instagram-worthy meals, foster a loving relationship, walk his or her adorable Boston Terrier, and, oh — train for a half marathon.

These kinds of “super-achievers” have the same number of hours in the day as the rest of us, but somehow, they always seem to get more done. How do they do it?

As a psychologist and life coach who has spent thousands of hours working with clients over the past 28 years — including hundreds of hours with clients who meet this super-achiever character profile — here’s what I’ve noticed about people who consistently succeed. Plus: How you can tweak your mindset to become a high achiever, too.

Fully Commit

Whatever you’re doing right now? Be fully in it. Commit.

When you see an Olympic hurdler leaping over barricades with superhuman agility, does she look distracted? Nope. She is 100% invested in the task at hand. And as you can see from her success, commitment leads to greatness.

So what do you do when you feel your mind wandering away from the present moment? Josh Pais, creator of Committed Impulse, high-performance training for actors, public speakers, and entrepreneurs, recommends saying “I’m back!” out loud whenever you feel yourself drifting away. You might get a few odd looks from bystanders, but it works!

Avoid Multitasking

Your email inbox, Instagram, Facebook, that hilarious viral cat video, and an ad proclaiming a big sale at your favorite website — these are probably just a few of the tabs you have open, commanding your attention while you simultaneously try to finish a project a work. It’s not out of the ordinary; multitasking has become the norm.

But the human mind is not designed for multitasking. In fact, research has proven that we’re pretty terrible at it. When you try to multitask, you lose focus, you’re more likely to make errors, and projects tend to take longer.

To make sure you can focus completely, strive to shut off all distractions — even if that means locking your cell phone in a drawer while you work. Extreme? Maybe. But it’s worth a try!

Ban “Friendly Interruptions” at All Costs

You’re working on a project. You’re totally in the zone, making lightning-speed progress.

Then, a co-worker swings by. “Just wanted your two cents on this,” he says, handing you a report outline. You look it over and give him your thoughts. It doesn’t take more than 60 seconds for you to chime in. No biggie, right?

Unfortunately, that minor interruption just majorly derailed your focus. It will take an average of 23 minutes for you to get back into the zone of whatever you were doing.

Super-achievers know that interruptions are productivity-killers, so they avoid them at all costs. (There’s a reason why most CEOs have private offices — with doors!)

If you don’t have a door to close, try finding a quiet space where you won’t be nudged, turn off your incoming email notifications for a few hours, or talk to your boss about instituting company-wide “do not disturb” hours a few times a week.

Hang With Fellow Super-Achievers

You’ve probably heard the expression, “If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.” Same goes for achievement and productivity.

There’s a reason why Beyoncé rolls with people like Oprah, the Obamas, and her mogul husband, Jay-Z. When you surround yourself with high-energy, like-minded people, you tend to rise to their level—while inspiring them, too.

Try to weed your professional life of people, colleagues, and even friends who don’t energize you. This doesn’t mean you should never see these people again or that you have to coldly cut them out of your life completely. But be mindful about who you choose to spend the majority of your time with. Try to surround yourself with super-achievers as often as possible.

Don’t know where to meet them? Join a challenging club or group (10K training, anyone?), or write an email to someone you admire. Or maybe there’s someone you already know in real life, but have been too shy to talk to. Drop him or her a note to say, “I’d love to treat you to lunch at your favorite spot.” You never know where one simple invitation may lead.

Prevent Emotions From Building

When you allow negative emotions—like frustration, anger, disappointment, or self-loathing—to build up inside of you like water about to boil in a tea kettle, you can easily head down a destructive path.

Sooner or later, all those bottled-up feelings are going to compel you to act out — whether that means binge-eating potato chips at midnight, watching 14 hours straight of Gilmore Girls instead of dealing with urgent deadlines, or engaging in some other behavior that leaves you feeling more frustrated (not to mention tired, hungover, or nauseous) than ever. Which is not great for productivity.

Super-achievers know how to manage their emotions effectively to prevent the tea-kettle effect. Most super-achievers I know have some kind of emotion-management practice that they rely on: meditating, journaling, a weekly check-in with a life coach, or a good old-fashioned punching-bag session at the gym.

Find a strategy that works for you. You’ll know it’s working when you feel a deep sense of release and relief—as if a ton of bricks have been lifted from your shoulders, leaving you feeling light, unburdened, no longer upset, and ready to get back to being awesome!

Last, but not least, remember that those incredible super-achievers you admire — and aspire to be like — are just ordinary people with flaws and fears, too.

As Beyoncé herself once said, “I know I’m stronger in the songs than I really am.”

We’re all just human beings trying to work, live, and navigate the world using all the tools and skills we have. Rather than aiming for flawless perfection, aim for your personal best — and you’ll always be a success.

Miley Cyrus & Liam Hemsworth: Their Road Back To A Second Engagement

miley-cyrus-liam-hemswroth-cute

It all started in Oct. 2015, when Liam openly admitted that he was still very much in love with his ex-fiancee, Miley. “You fall in love with who you fall in love with,” Liam told ELLE magazine in a one-on-one. “You can never choose. I guess some people just come with a little more baggage. I mean, look — we were together five years, so I don’t think those feelings will ever change. And that’s good because that proves to me that it was real.” So sweet!

Of course, it’s no surprise that Miley felt “vindicated” by Liam’s confession.

It didn’t take long for Miley to reach out to Liam, and in Nov. 2015 she told him that she would always love him, too. It was right around that time that reportedly Miley thought she and Liam were ready to try again. Could this be when they finally rekindled their romance?

Things sure took off from there, because on Nov. 14 Liam adopted a dog — at Miley’s suggestion! As many longtime Miam fans know, Miley and Liam always considered their dogs to be their family, so the idea of them adopting a dog together is big news! The shelter even publicly thanked Miley for helping the dog, named Dora, get adopted by Liam. Whoa!

It was a few weeks between then and the next chapter of the Miley/Liam saga, when she posted a screen grab of a very special text message. The message read “I love u,” but Miley cleverly cropped out who it was from and the rest of the conversation. Fans were quick to speculate that it could be from Liam, though it was never confirmed.

On New Year’s Eve, Miley was growing out her hair again specifically for Liam. She even stopped dying it bleach blonde, and showed off her gorgeous natural brunette roots!

And then… it finally happened: Miley and Liam were caught spending time together.

Oh, but don’t worry — things got even better that very same day. After details about their make-out session at the music festival came out, it was later revealed that Miley and Liam spent New Year’s Eve together, too! Not just that, but they spent it with his entire family in Australia — including his older brother, Chris Hemsworth, and his wife, Elsa Pataky. Now that’s a reunion!

Apparently things were going so well between Miley and Liam in Australia, she bailed on a scheduled performance so that she could stay with him.

By Jan. 18, the ring was back on. The engagement ring, that is! Miley proudly flaunted her gorgeous diamond from Liam, the very same engagement ring he used to propose back in 2012, in multiple selfies on Instagram. That’s a huge statement!

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is the road Miley and Liam took to get back on their merry way to wedding bells.

Tell me, HollywoodLifers — Are YOU excited that Miley and Liam might finally get married this time? Comment below with your thoughts!