- Dos and Don’ts on the first Date
Congratulations, your hard work has paid off, you’ve listened to the advice, and you are now sitting in a trendy restaurant having a romantic dinner with the hot girl whose phone number you (confidently) got last Saturday. You’re excited – she’s excited.
How do you make this a successful date? You’ve already made an impression just by looking your best, but actions speak louder than words. Be a gentleman – hold the door, pay for the meal, drive her home, girls appreciate these gestures because it makes them feel special. Making the girl feel special will be your mission. Give sincere compliments (not the clichés – be original), show interest in the person sitting across from you by asking questions and listening to her – Do not talk about yourself for 3 hours, that will make you feel special. If you are going through a list in your head of what to say next while we are talking our female intuition will pick up that you are offline. Remember we are intuitive creatures, we pick up on everything. Do not text people on your phone!! and do not get hammered drunk, stay in control of the situation. Be present, maintain eye-contact and enjoy the moment you have together; relax, have fun – laugh together. If you can make the girl laugh you’ve come a long way. Avoid heavy, serious subjects on the first date! Topics like past relationships, how they ended, problems at work etc. – there’s a time and place for these talks, but not on a first date where you are supposed to have a fun time.
The girl will most likely try to figure out what sort of man she is looking at. You may look like a million dollars, but do you have a good, strong character? Girls want a man with ambitions and goals in life. I am myself very ambitious, so a guy who is lazy with no career, no dreams, no passions, will be a huge turnoff. You must know what you want from life, and try to go for that. I am not talking about out-competing Google, or launching the new ‘Facebook’, but having something you strive for – a mission – is very attractive to a girl. She wants to know that you are an independent man with a mind of your own and an interesting life that she would want to be part of. Most women want a family, too, at some point and we are wired to look for signs that reveal whether you are a good choice as a partner. Will you be able to take care of a family and provide for their needs?
To sum things up – the common denominator of the advice you have read is: look hot and be confident If you improve your appearance you will have a much better chance of getting the girl out on a date, which is the first step in getting into a relationship. But appearances can be deceiving; you have to work on your inner game as well, become that strong man who knows what he wants from life and pursues it! I’ve given you my best advice – now it is your turn to take action and become irresistible! Good luck, boys!
Thank you for listening! 🙂